Mindletic: a mental gym for your emotional balance with Ieva Vaitkevičiūtė

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You are listening to innovators collapse with Eric Milcher where I dive into the interesting and fascinating stories that
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Let's dive it. Hi, everyone. My guest today is Ieva Vijavite.
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CEO in co-founder of Mindletec which provides a safe place where employees can reflect on their emotional state
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And train their minds the same way they train their bodies my litech is a second place winner of the global hack which had over 15 thousand participants
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Across 100 plus countries you have a welcome to the show
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Yeah, hey, Eric. Really nice being here. So, thank you for inviting me. Yeah, where you at right now? Currently calling from Venice to capital of Liswania.
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Ok fantastic cuz I know sometimes you go to Spain you work from there and yeah you I don't know what you do over there I think maybe a lot of sangria
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About a surfing maybe a bull fighting no actually papa stop us is my main folk was there May focus alright alright what's what's your favorite top one
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Oh, I think it's grilled vegetables. I love the most. Mmm. Also shrimps. Oh, yeah. Yeah.
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Okay, so to get started, I like the audience to know a little bit about you. So, I've got some quirky questions for you. The first one is
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What is a show or movie that you can watch again and again and never get tired of
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Very early age. I was into friends. I think they're represent a lot of a lot of real life situations where you can find yourself for somebody around you. So
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It's definitely friends. You know, that was my wife's favorite show. I had never seen it but then of course
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I saw all the episodes now because of her. Yeah, no, it's a great show. I, I, I, I'm here with you. Okay.
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Last funny question here what is one of your pet peeves pet peeves yeah pet peeve something that annoys you
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I should have prepared for this questions but okay the latest one I had issues with my plumbing.
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So ha ha yeah it continues that really annoys me on daily basis so currently it's really hard for me to start the hot water I really need to wait for a long time
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So, every day, in order to go to the shower, no matter how early or late I go. Yeah. I live in the top floor. Huh?
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I actually have to go to the I usually turn the hot weather on then I go to the toilet
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That I'm going to make myself coffee and I'll leave that. I have some sort of warmish weather there.
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The good side where which I see you here is that the cold weather also light wakes me up pretty good so I never have hot shower and it's not the choice
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That would be very frustrating. I can imagine so. Yeah, I can imagine.
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Okay, okay, good to know, get to know. So, you went to school. You got a degree in psychology. But what did you wanna be when you were a kid?
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Oh, I remember. Oh, those were good days. So, I remember myself.
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At the age of four or five that was when I heard this question of who do you wanna be when you grow up
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And back in those days people were still used to having one job for their
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Majority of life. Yeah. Then finish university related to the subject that you will be working on for upcoming 2030 years and I'm coming from the family where my parents
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We're also really like stable in their positions. So, I remember them asking what you wanna do for the rest of your life.
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For the rest of your life and I remember wishing to be a hairdresser.
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Already planned a lot of hair by that time including all of my dolls and my myself of course I tried to like cut the
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Yeah what's what's the name of the short
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Short hair on the top I I forgot the name of it but anyway every I I had this like really really short
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Yeah, yeah. Yeah. I I was trying to get rid of them. By cutting them. So, I had it very very short hair on top of my head.
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And then I was cutting hair off my grandmother's without her noticing. That was my rear. How would you do that?
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I know. When she was sitting like in her chair, you would just, you just sneak up behind her. Start cutting. No, it was it wasn't that.
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Actually did that pretty good job but I was like trying to explain her why she would look better with this type of haircut that I've
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Wanted for her that wasn't even equal or on both sides. Yeah. I was very entrepreneur in the hairstyling business.
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And then I I was asking my parents to give me a sister for this reason
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If she's listening, you know the story. That was only the first wish but once you were born, it was so much more there. I probably.
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But yeah, cutting hair was something that I I really, yeah, what about the neighbor's dog? Did they, did you practice on the neighbors? Or their dog, or their kids?
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No, I know some boundaries. Only glass. Bro, glass.
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Once. Okay, and did your sister when she grew up a little bit, you know, did you ever give her a bad haircut or a good haircut
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All my haircuts were really good. Okay. It's a matter of who is who was evaluating? No, but really?
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Really one was a bit and successful I have to admit because I convinced her
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Three or four this long
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Decided to make dreadlocks for her. I did not know about do it. Oh no. So somehow I realized that it should be related to
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It's just something by traditional ropes. Small ropes. Okay. Can I start it making
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Making barrios like connections with robes in different styles and
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Did the dup having so much like hair and I didn't miss fun for a moment.
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Hey the worst part was that it got stuck and we could not take it off so
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We actually got it. Oh my god. And they recently found the picture of it. Okay. The group was agreeing.
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At the age of three. Somehow I was I
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I did not know about Marley that I knew the sub culture and I don't know it wasn't great.
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But remember there's a really really mixed near makes a happy so thankful
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For her for letting me do this I never experimented on her hair that much ever again I was very sick she literally had to cut it
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Well, she didn't cut it but your mom probably had to cut it, right?
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And but the good part that that parents actually did not see that as a big issue they were like okay as long as it's under consent
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And my sister was up for it because they actually made the valleys point white. Just wrote 3 years old. There's no consent.
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For the record I was eight so it wasn't like
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Really big difference. Oh my god. I was just telling my wife this morning that our little girl who's two and a half finally has hair long enough to put into a ponytail
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And so I can only imagine if her older brother got the bright idea to give her a hairstyle like Bob Marley and
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She had like green ropes everywhere and are here. We had to cut it. Oh my god. He would be in so much trouble.
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And if he told me, if he told me, oh, she, you know, she gave her consent. I would look at him.
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Oh my god. Really? Okay. Okay. This is alright. I'm starting to cry over here from Latin Tour.
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Alright, let's jump, let's jump a little bit to, okay, what was one of the most valuable lessons or piece of advice
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That your mom or dad gave you when you were growing up? Don't cut here. You're not going to get hairstyle.
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Maybe you should think about different career in the hats how I finish psychology
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Deal with the stroll
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Yeah, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, bad advice. Ah, oh, I guess that, I don't know, it's I guess the the one thing that pops into my head.
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Is how my father I wonder if it's whether it is an advice he was actually
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When I was growing up at the age of 12 or 13 when you started having your
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Like a few birthday hits. And your body changes and you're not satisfied with it and boys are making fun of you because you change in the ways and
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Anyway I remember him taking me on his lab when I was crying while my bodies
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Strange and I'm ugly or like I don't like this pain that I'm having in my stomach and all these things he actually took me on his lap
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And a basically try to explain
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How how big of volume of the power I have within my body and that's and the Spain that I have on monthly basis are these changes of in my body
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Are a country booting to the amazing thing that I can that I can do to give
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Birth and create life and that I should cherish this the body and this opportunity.
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My whole life. So, I think that's the one of the first things that come up to my mind but of course, there were many. My mom
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My mother was also making really really good point about not quitting things when they get hurt that everyone can quit but those who hustle
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Through tough times. They reach next levels of subjective happiness. Yeah.
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Yeah, I know those are both very very good advices. I'm gonna remember what your father told you and maybe I'll be in that position later on in my
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In my life with my daughter. Okay. Now, before university, you were a mentor. Can you tell us more about that? Who did you mentor? Before university.
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Ah yeah so since the age of 13 I was scout in scouts troop
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And usually when you get older the whole system and geo system helps you grow.
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By mentoring you and when to get older, you become a mentor of young bite generation.
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So, this is where at the age of 15, 16, I started mentoring younger kids running in the forest trying not to burn themselves in the fire.
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And I grew from there into training facilitation so I was also
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Mentoring adults later on I'm still
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Leading groups. So recently mentoring kids and then mentoring leaders who mentor kids. This facility. Okay. Let's jump to my late tech which you launched last year
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When did you know that you wanted to create a safe place or a platform where employees could reflect on their emotional state
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With a community and or with the community of certified professionals
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When did you know you wanted to launch this? I remember wishing to find ways how to create spaces for people to
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Live a unique and better life what defines better for themselves
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I was always a fan of post to psychology that focuses on how to increase your subjective happiness and not
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A general more and more of happiness. So so I guess it started many years ago but when we
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Talk about this particular solution that we currently have a mental gym as we call it
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A bit over over 2 years, I was already working within the field of connecting professionals with
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Professional service providers in a physical health with those who wish to get services
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And this is where I wanted to move into the Smithal Health branch more and then during
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First out, wave of pandemic. I, myself, experience this huge anxiety.
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I was also volunteering with the data adding list team trying to prognose how many resources we will need on city level and it was
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And it was it was crazy times but they're the same time there was this hackathon that connected people to Soul COVID related struggles and surprise of course I interested in dislike
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Mental, emotional balance, struggle that everyone has and pandemic just boosted it.
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So that's where I come in where they save message that hey we should train our minds the same way we train our bodies no matter
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How mentally fit we are we can always be stronger more resilient more subjectively happy and confront any conflicts that come our way okay
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What is it that that really excites the most about the community about the platform?
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The dance depends on the organization's better. They have experienced previously. Some sort of men.
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Mental health, emotional well-being programs are there, new beasts. Okay.
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For the guest that did the easiest part to understand the journaling where we provide and please give me 520
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To trade their minds by self reflection choosing emotion that defines your feeling and at this moment the best.
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And then based on your selection you get personalized experience
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So, this personalization part of course is something that really interests organizations. And David that we can provide afterwards
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Currently we are already showing anonymized and agrigated data of trends there and based on Anita we suggest specific
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Topics so the organizational level and our data analyst is currently releasing this
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Personal emotional balance trend that we show depending on each and three that the user does
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A little beach showing that on the on a company level and I've also super excited that the moment I I we're currently discussing
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Discussing with one of our partners. We don't even call them quiets. Those are partners that we work together.
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To combine their objective data regarding sick leave and turn over and holidays together with what the motions
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Did we see just before it happened so that we can actually show the trends on your particular organization
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When to plan that this is going to come eh not only like on a seasonal level but our company level
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That is so interesting. Okay. Now, what are the things that can contribute to stress in the workplace? Are people who just like knowledge in giving constructive feedback?
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You know, what are some best practices to keep in mind when giving constructive feedback in your opinion
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That reminds me of one I think it was week long training that I went
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Some years ago and it was related to constructive reflection and feedback. The whole week was about it
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And I remember this main structure of the feedback that I enjoyed the most which was created by three F's
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They call it so fact feeling and future so that was the I have I I think I have an article written in LinkedIn as well
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If that somebody is interested in more details but basically focusing on aligning the facts of what happened
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Not necessarily in the big conflict but even when we are giving feedback after period of time these are the facts
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And really making sure that both sides agree on facts first and then we can move from there
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The feeling reflecting on the feeling I had but not the dealing somebody
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Made me have that's the really important part here because this is where the conflict might rise or or people might be resistant to the feedback
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If the feedback giver puts play on making him feel in any particular way.
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Responsibility related to past experiences right and fierce that we currently have due to past periods
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So the feeling part is where we actually express this is how I felt or this is these are the emotions that were running from
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Right. It relates to right? Maybe the past experiences I had.
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Hey if I want to go eat in deeper but then the simple feeling expressed in a way that is not violent not but not blaming. But rather this is the feeling I had.
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So important because most people jump to he made me feel this way
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You know, he may be angry and then, just shifting that little point of view. Oh, no, no, no. Exactly. How did you feel? As you said, you control your own feelings. Yeah, that's
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Yeah because the moment I say you made me feel in any particular way
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You actually get this responsibility like here take it this is yours and this is where you either fight or flight
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Mode you immediately have this mode if it's something that is perceived as unpleasant right? Right. Can you make me feel angry or unpleasant?
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But at the same time if you made me feel loved maybe that's a good way to put but like incorrect
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Different easier but when
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Talk about this constructive that is unpleasant feedback or about something we want to change.
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This is where it's really important to acknowledge that Felix is a responsibility of it on your own and just after this expressing feelings
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If we do not go into flight mode but you made me do this or but you know I was stressed I did not have time and we don't get stuck on the
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Healing soul but really acknowledge that Phillips both of us had and maybe even going deeper into where on those swimmings are coming from our
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Our past experiences you should be right this is where we can go to the third F which is future
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So what could be or how can we as a team or as partners or as a as a group or the future in what I do have
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Different outcomes especially if we want to have different outcomes but even if we want to have the same outcome.
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Speaking also talk about the future we should definitely continue at right right so facts
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Got it. Interesting. Okay, what's one piece of advice you can share with my listeners? You know, just to be happier. What would you suggest?
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Don't try to be happy all the time. It's okay not to be happy.
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We shouldn't be always excited and happy it's impossible we are so much more so much more than happy as happy just one of the emotions
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I strongly strongly suggest that this is what we are preeting with my
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Cheap for sustainable living and having your own emotional balance between different emotions and try to
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Try to understand your limitation so that you wouldn't go out of your study deviation this zone or fierce emotions you have.
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Eh in order not to fall into burnout or eh
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Anxiety or even heavier experiences there due to this huge change distribution of different dimensions but rather finding your own
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Balance between different of those beat high energy of pleasant high energy and pleasant
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It's also useful. It's a power to move forward. It's power to to start the renaissance and
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To speedy value and see value different emotions that's the main okay okay yeah but this has been a lot of fun it's been a pleasure thank you so much for being on the show
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Okay? Yeah, I think it's so much. Yeah, yeah, for everybody listening. Stay tuned for next week as we
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